Marriage is not an end in itself; it is a means to an end. The importance of marriage should not be exaggerated; it should be in sync with the design of its Architect i.e. God Almighty.
Sometimes the way some people go about the subject of marriage leaves us with the impression that marriage is everything.
But no; it is not. Purpose is everything. Without the understanding of God’s purpose for your life, MARRIAGE becomes a MIRAGE.
What you should be looking for primarily, predominantly and fundamentally is how the marriage you intend to enter in will contribute to the fulfillment of your purpose on earth.
Purpose is everything; not marriage. Marriage is a means to realizing the endpoint of your purpose.
So, while other considerations may be valid to determine who to marry so far they do not conflict with the principles of God’s Word, your major consideration is PURPOSE.
Any marriage that brings you closer to purpose and destiny fulfillment by the day is worth all the attention and investment.
Conversely, any marriage that takes you a thousand miles away from God’s plan for your life is a disaster.
In getting married, first, one cannot marry an unbeliever because we’re enjoined not to be unequally yoked together with unbelievers – 2Cor6:14.
Second, the believer you intend to marry must be on the same page with you in terms of God’s purpose for your life.
In other words, such must be in tunes with your purpose on earth and be willing to go all the way to support you.
It is grand deception to always think that so far two people are Christians, they will automatically have a fulfilling marriage. No!
There are many Christian homes that are like a wreck. When we shy away from telling people the truth, that will be the resultant effect.
There are married people today whose spouses are not supporting what they believe to be God’s purpose for their lives and they’re frustrated.
It is more painful in ministry. Your wife does not necessarily need to have a pulpit ministry but is she ready to support you even if she’s not a ministry gift in the class of the five-fold?
She may be a banker, a doctor, a business woman, etc. but is she willing to support you? That’s the kind of thing I’m talking about.
Is your husband ready to support you if you’re a ministry person but he’s not a ministry person?
Has he counted the cost of marrying a woman apostle yet he’s just a normal Christian functioning and prospering in another sphere of life?
These are germane questions to ponder and to answer before signing the dotted lines.
It’s more than “my purpose in Christ is to glorify God” and what have you. That’s fine. That’s for all of us and it is GENERAL.
We’re talking about your SPECIFIC purpose on earth and how your partner is ready to go all the way to support you.
Other issues in marriage, viz finance, romance, etc. are important but they’re not an end in themselves; they are a means to an end – PURPOSE.
They’re to contribute to one’s purpose on earth by putting one in a good frame of mind to pursue Heaven’s dreams.
But all of that being present without A SENSE OF PURPOSE, the marriage has no foundation.
Therefore friend, while you consider every other thing in determining who to marry or who not to marry, your number one priority should be DIVINE PURPOSE and to know to what degree will that marriage lead to the fulfillment of God’s plan for your life.
May the Lord help us in our marital choices!